Truthfully, it wasn’t anything hugely stressful that was on my mind. Three, as soon as I had the thought that I felt off, I immediately started brainstorming what I was going to do that day. Two, I did feel a little off and had no idea why. I’m not the kind to read a milk carton, especially when I’m eating with someone. He pointed out that I never ever read the text of a carton in front of me.Īnd it took me a minute to realize a few things. (It’s wonderful and I’m lucky, I know.) As we spooned cereal in silence, my husband asked if everything was alright. My husband and I both work from home, and some mornings we’re even able to eat breakfast together. I caught myself doing this not two days ago. They can come across disengaged and remote. When a Nine retreats into fantasy-land as an escape, they’ll be out of touch with their instinctual strengths. This can be easier to spot when we remember that Nines are both in touch with their physical and inner or spiritual selves, giving them great instincts. I can’t be upset about my present if I’m stuck in my own perfectly tailored fantasy, right? A Nine stuck on the first draft of a novel might walk around plotting the perfect answers to questions a talk-show host will inevitably ask them when their book hits the top charts. A Nine in stress is often a Nine in denial.įirst up, Nines will sometimes escape into mental or emotional fantasies. This exercise might take a glass of wine and some real truth-talk with yourself. Given that a Nine will minimize upsetting feelings until they are terribly undeniable, it can be an incredible help for each Nine to identify the actions and behaviors they engage in without conscious thought when curbing stress. (I certainly am!) We’re headed to action-oriented waters. Where Nines are typically optimistic and creative, these changes cut them off from their own power and make it even more difficult to rise out of the hole they slowly dig themselves in.Ĭheery, no? Don’t feel too uncomfortable. Stressed Nines take on the troubled aspect of a six, not trusting their own minds and minimizing any confidence in their decisions. Nines in this state may double down, trying to gain more stability while self-sabotaging their natural efforts to bring about their goal. This is a Nine no longer self-possessed, but fraught with anxiety and insecurity. However, when complacent Nines are under stress (also known as their “direction of disintegration”), they act more like an anxious and worried Enneagram type Six. A Nine at their best will have stared down their fear of friction and learned how to deal with it calmly and peacefully. Healthy Nines are fully present, to themselves, their relationships, and all the situations in their life. Anything negative can be reframed and kept in a safe, positive light.Īs an Enneagram type 9, understanding how stress manifests and the reasons behind it are healthy and ultimately lead to the positive outcomes we so desperately desire.Īlright my fellow 9s, take a deep breath with me and let’s dive in! When a 9 Becomes a 6 I want to minimize anything remotely upsetting and continue on with my peaceful existence. It’s almost as if I feel a natural, unbidden resistance to the idea of conflict and stress. It’s quite ironic that I, a type 9, continued to put this article on the bottom of my list.
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